ONE PERSON CHANGES, EVERYONE CHANGES

Allowing someone to change (and being nice about it) is trickier than it seems
Especially for the better.
We can nag,cajole,beg and threaten a loved one to change
A behavior
An attitude
A habit.
Sometimes for years.
Then when he or she does begin to shift in the very direction wanted, there can be backlash:
Like--why didn't you do this sooner when it really counted?
(The too little to late syndrome)
Like--whoa, I kind of liked being one up-superior
(Now the playing field is more level)
Like--why is this person getting so many kudos? 
(I've been "good" all along)

One person's change triggers change for everyone
That's the power of an individual