TRANSGENDER SKILLS RATHER THAN ROLE RIGIDITY

This is a true truth burp, meaning this thought popped into my head and I won't know what I mean until I write about it.
Both fun and nerve wracking.

Here's the thought. Women wanted to be seen as equal to men in intrinsic value, work, and life,and knew they actually were equal already in terms of ability and talent. All they needed was equal opportunity. Just read the bumper stickers from the 70's.

What I wonder is, are men able to be equal to women in intrinsic value, work, and life. Do they want to be? I'm thinking of many young mothers irritated and disgusted by their parenting partner who doesn't help enough without being asked and when they help aren't seen as good enough. Is their learning curve (cliff) larger than women being equal to men (better).

Do we need to be more transgender in skills and attitude as we share, switch,and adapt to what used to be gender specific abilities.  So women need to be equally adept at the feminine and the masculine. Men need to be equally adept at the masculine and the feminine. No one gets sole possession of the gender mode. Neither is superior. Skills can be taught not inherited through DNA.  And maybe, we need new names for masculine and feminine modes. 

If we are going to be confused about gender roles, then lets' get fluid and respectful and patient with learning how to use both and not have a locked in, fixed point of view and war.

I think this is what I had on my mind.